My mum is a caterer and on numerous occasions she's told us about the bridezillas she has had the ' pleasure' of encountering.I have also seen firsthand how some brides behave ,fussing ,moaning and antagonizing others over the smallest details. Sure, as a bride,it is your day but that does not mean you have to go in full on diva mode being nasty and arrogant to others. So here's a tribute to the brides with grace and respect ,who understand that beauty is not just in their make- up, dresses and hall decor but most importantly in how you carry yourself.
From a young age,my sisters, a few of my cousins ,nieces and I have meshed really well.thinking back on the type of brides we were its easy to see why we've had that bond. It all began with S a few years ago. The night before her wedding she had mehndi ( henna) on her arms and legs but insisted on making our beds as we were her guests at her home. Thereafter was Z, who helped with her entire reception,and I mean ENTIRE.She had a hand( well both hands) in it from start to finish,she planned,she cooked,set tables,she even cleaned up! She had no professional make up or hairstyling done ,but she was gorgeous and dressed in like 15 minutes. Then came J whose wedding was planned in under 24 hours.A simple,no fuss evening was spent at her home and she was so loving and grateful to all those who helped pull it off. I was next in line, tho I don't remember much I do remember my aunts scolding me as I was decorating cupcakes that morning instead of going to get dressed. My sister says she remembers my entourage of lil girls (my nieces) and how thrilled they were ,milling around me all morning.Next to wed was F. The night before her wedding she played games with the rest of us 'nazm chairs' and thunee to be precise.At the Walima She welcomed her guests personally and continued to mingle throughout the day. She also hugged and thanked each of my mums workers which is something I haven't seen before. Last of the wedded was A. She too mingled with her guests and had no separate table or stage. I recall her kneeling down at one point ,with no mind paid to her dress,whilst she chatted to a guest seated at a table. There are a few more left in line to get married and I have no doubt that they too will be undemanding brides.
Your wedding day should be one filled with love ,light and happiness. Don't mar it by being petty and catty. Behave respectfully and let it be a day that you and others remember fondly.
Belated but special mention to Z who gave me the idea for this blog.
Until you read again
Ma'assalaam
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