I often think of the challenges our mothers faced raising us and if it differed much to what we face now.After reading many posts in the pregnancy and motherhood forums I follow,it's clear that tho decades apart the pressure of others on new mums remains the same.i couldn't quite put it into words and then I stumbled upon this which is so incredibly apt and surprisingly written by a male
"When every single person around a young mother wants to tell her what to do and what not to do, why her child is crying and how she is feeding the child inadequately, then more confusion and hurt is caused than education or solution to the matter. Babies will cry just like we all did at one stage and it is only correct to say a word of encouragement to the mother or remain silent. Interference into matters of feeding and upbringing can be the most annoying, depressing and stressful experience a young mother has. Each child is unique and not all solutions will be applicable. Criticism of young mothers by their own family members or friends shows that they do not really care but simply want to prove they know better without actually providing a positive silent solution in the most loving manner. No mother intentionally causes pain and grief to her baby but rather she is very keen on providing every bit of comfort. This status is dedicated to mothers who have suffered at the hands of "know it alls" who will not leave them alone! May the Almighty bless us all! Aameen"
It's tough being a new mum but it's extremely rewarding.i think new mums need all the confidence they can get and should be given the time to develop this and hone their maternal instincts.with that said I hope I don't morph into a know It all when interacting with a mum newer than I .
Until you read again
Ma,assalam
